My D3 named her Webkinz OW's D's name. I hear ya, mister. I feel ya.
Like Sara, I was all pumped up about the good exchange too. But...the good exchange still happened, so that is a good thing. I think that you put the message to your W about your sons and her being a mother was great. That made you out (as it should because you are!) as very thoughtful and considerate. Not someone that should make your wife nervous and anxious...