I have not read all of your thread, so don't know the details other that you and your W have reunited. That is great! The one thing that jumped out at me in the posts was the fact she is telling you to be patient and to take small steps. Please, please take her seriously about this. The thing I see in common with almost all the men here on the board is when their W's give them just a little encouragement....they go ape! They think everything is back to normal....but it's not yet. They rush the wife before she is ready for the physical intimacy. I'm sorry that these illnesses have beset the two of you, but she may be very stressed and feels pressured. Perhaps you don't even realize that you are placing pressure on her. Try to keep things relaxed and maybe act more like her best friend right now until she gets over her anxiety.
I sure hope it holds. Good luck.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
