Karen, One more thing ... you can't try to tell him anything about the A or OW. He won't listen to you. I've been there, done that. Right now, in your H's eyes, she can do no wrong, and their relationship is perfect.
The OW in my sitch was of questionable character, with a not so good past, is not a good mother and I could not believe my H was involved with her. Do you think my H saw any of that? Not all all. When I brought it up to him not long after d-day he acknowledged some of her faults but told me "we'd do ok together." I could have fallen on the ground when he said that.
So add another rule to your play book ... don't attempt to break them up pointing out OWs faults. If she has them (and we all do) they'll come to light soon enough.
