Welcome to hell my friend.

Take the advice... unplug the phone, put in a DVD and relax. Yes, I know it's impossible.

Got separated on 9/29 and heading for divorce.

My advice to you... (learn from some of my mistakes)

1. GIVE her an incredible amount of space.
2. No R talk
3. Let her initiate almost all contact
4. Ask for nothing.
5. The more you push the more they run

Good luck