Thanks for your input CL. Our dialogue usually consists of me saying, "I feel a,b,c or I'm concerned about a,b,c, because of x,y,z.", and H usually offers solutions (when the concern is with something/someone other than himself) or says that he understands (end of topic) or changes the subject. He never brings up his feelings, the only things he ever talks about are his job, his projects, and the people involved with them.
As far as I can tell, if he's aware of changes he needs to make, he doesn't want to step up and make them. To be fair, I'm pretty down on him today, so my assumptions may be colored by my negative feelings. He does nice little things for me every once in awhile...I think that my emotional bank account with him is overdrawn, and they're not counting for a whole lot.
I think my conflict management and listening skills can be improved...but more likely, I'm dealing with someone who is being selfish. I'm trying to not be selfish too...but I'm also tired of being the doormat.
