Do you think my husband is right that there is no hope for our marriage and that it is over? Or do you think there is a chance that this married woman and he might break up even though he says that they are in love? I am still in love with him unfortunately. I am hoping that in the next 5 or 6 months that we still are living together that they may break up but am I just a big fat fool?
The answer to the first question is, "no." If he wanted a divorce, he would have done it already. He is on the fence, in spite of any "big show" he is putting on.
The answer to the next question is contained in Number 7 above. If you can't control it, let go of it. You can't control him. You can't control his girlfriend. Let it go.
I have been DBing for seven months, and I still don't have this down. Yesterday, I looked at my wife's cell phone (it's "locked down" and I don't have the password), and I saw that she had received an text message. The only person who sends her texts is her boyfriend. This got under my skin... so I left the house until I cooled off.
The bottom line is that you have to learn how to manage your feelings.
