Question-Any good basic advice for me?

[Hurtin4certain]

Karen... your husband has been abducted by aliens.

Here are a few rules to live by while dealing with an unfaithful spouse:

- Believe none of what you hear and only 1/2 of what you see.
- Your husband will speak in absolute negatives about youand your relationship, its how the spouse having the affair justifies their actions.
- Your husband will "re-write" your history together. Right now he is only focusing on all the bad times.

You are just starting the journey, prepare for a roller coaster ride into the depths of hell. As each day passes, you will feel a little stronger. Focus on detaching yourself from his actions, they aren't about you, they are about something wrong in himself.

You are also far from knowing if his relationship with the other woman will ever pan out. Keep in mind most affairs only last 6 months and VERY FEW make it to 2 years.

You're going to need to surround yourself with friends and family while going through this. Keep you and your kids mental health as your #1 priority.

You can (and will) make it through this. Sorry you are here, we're here to help.

H4C