LL, I know what you're saying. I couldn't imagine, even if I was ever going to be a WAW (I don't think I'd ever be one), throwing away my wedding vows, my family, etc. for my own selfish reasons. Marriage means you STICK. You stick around, work on the problems, DON'T have an affair, you don't run. You TALK, you WORK. Marriage takes work, if the WAS is too weak to do that, then that's a HUGE character flaw that they need to fix, and if they won't, then they don't deserve the LBS who sticks it out!
I haven't really read many thread from WAW/WAS. I think it would piss me off a bit. Most of the time their reasons for walking away are so trivial. Also, I think that if they took the time BEFORE walking away to talk to their spouses and try to work things out, maybe they wouldn't be so miserable and walk away.
I love my H so much. I love my family so much. Sure, I'd have been "justified" in most people's eyes having an A, or walking away, or just giving up. But I didn't, I won't. Luckily, my marriage was saved (thank God!), and my family is intact. My H tries so hard, and yeah, I have my momentary lapses in trust, insecurity, etc. But my H never left, he stayed, miserable as he was at the time, and worked on it with me. He stuck around and now we have a chance. Maybe all of the WAS should have done that instead of complaining of such trivial things. What about the spouse left behind? What about the kids? The WAS just left, how could those children feel?? If they tried everything, and I mean EVERYTHING to work on it, then they can leave if they want. Otherwise, in my opinion, they have no right to leave a marriage and family that they helped make just because they don't feel right about things at that moment.
Hope you are doing well. Just felt like adding to your thread.
