PS, Your point is well-taken. My W's happiness and removing the negative stressors from her life are more important than fretting about money. I've been trying to be silent about money issues. I pay the bills, write the checks, give her spending money and don't add to her worries.
My W's struggle is that she wants financial freedom but doesn't know what type of job she would like that would pay her the salary she would require. She's talking about buying property someday and managing a small apartment building. She would probably be good at this.
I understand your advice. Give her the space and time to find the vocational formula that will work for her. It may not be a conventional full-time job. Her struggle will be mustering the courage to venture forward and explore her options.
My struggle will be determining how I fit into the solution. I have to make decisions about choosing activities that I think are helpful, and declining requests and directives that I think are unreasonable. I don't want to lose any of the positives I currently have. This means I won't work an additional part-time job, or pursue jobs for the sole sake of making more money.
My W put a job ad on the counter that would pay 20K more than what I'm making. I looked at the job description, and did not want to pursue it. I also don't think I should be job-hunting until she gets settled into something. What if I switched jobs, and it didn't work-out? My changing jobs at this time, would be risking stability. Her agenda is how do we make more money fast.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
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