You say you don't know whether to stick around for the next chapter. I say you don't need to know YET. When the time is right to do something, you'll know. There's a reason why they say "one day at a time." Like driving in the fog. From a distance, you can't see where the road is going. But you CAN see the road right in front of you.
My first reaction was to vote against pouring out the booze... that looks like you're getting between him and the alcohol again and not letting him face his issues. However, I'm also having the thought that it's your house, too, and you're certainly within your rights to say, "I will not have any more booze under this roof." Period. No argument. No discussion. What he does about that is his business.
Regarding change: I've finally concluded that my bf has not and cannot change enough to make us into lovers and life partners. I will continue to consider him a friend and, frankly, almost family. But intimacy with him just isn't possible. I had hope it might be different, but now that I've accepted this, I feel prettly good.
