From your signature line:
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H probably leaving in Jan 08


From your post:
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told me he has no problem if I date... calm and cool about it, not at all bothered


These two items would seem compatible to me.

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This can't be good, can it?

KPK, it isn't a matter of good or not good, it is a matter of what you make out of the situation. If he does leave, you can make it good or not good. Isn't that is what life is about.

IMP