First I would like to wish everyone here a happy new year!
My sitch: Before Christmas w was willing to go to councelling and really wanted to go before new year. I tried to get us in but couldnt till Jan 10. She said something about making a decision on what she wanted before new year.
Had Christmas at my parents and then her parents. Overall it was good for the kids. w seemed distant but ok.
We had been sleeping in same bed she would sometimes cuddle but not lately. Kept distance between us. Christmas day we returned home she worked the next day i had it off. In bed that night I told her to come over and cuddle 'no strings attached', she did and we fell asleep. Later i woke up and put my hand on her she did the same and we were intimate. Almost done and she says 'no strings attached with this also'. That hurt. Next morning talking before she went to work. She wants to seperate, me getting my own place. She mentioned a sleeping room that another couples h tried. I said i wouldnt unless it was big enough for the kids too. I confirmed we cant afford it. also said if we could maybe i should use it for a month and then you should use it for a month. She was pissed and said u promised u wouldnt take my from me. I let that go and decided to move into basement.
Not sure where to go with this. Im trying to detach. not be around her. Trying to do more with gal. Still being nice to her.
I put my ice house on the river that night and went fishing the next evening by myself, a friend couldnt make it. I brought a six pack and bottle of boones farm. caught no fish but did catch a buzz. wife called me while i was fishing and said something about taking away my dignity by having me in the basement. I was pretty short with her and got off the phone.
Yesterday I had an awsome day. Went fishing with bil in morning. saw a pickup that fell in ice upstream, 3inches of ice 4foot deep. My ice house is on 2 foot of ice and i can drive right to it. poor ice conditions in nd and mn this year. Took d17 to movie National Treasure, good time we both enjoyed it. Took s8 and his cousin sleding at park. was great got good pics. Watched Ratatouille movie with s8. Played board game with s8 and d12.
During movie i could here wife laughing upstairs in our bedroom talking to om.
s8 and cousin commented on w talking for and hour on the phone last night and next morning. They never asked who she may be talking to i didnt say anything.
not sure what to do next. I feel like she should have to divorce me before she continues her a. I guess i am giving her space and hoping and praying that she comes around.
