Well, H agrees with the submissive theory

[bombardier50]

LFL, let me add one little thing about soldier boy.

I served 20 years in the military. I retired as a Colonel. The fact that I was an officer and a flyboy was attractive to some women. The one thing that helped me keep my pants zipped was that adultery in the military is a crime...a punishable offense. Get caught sleeping around and you lose...big time. Not just your family, but any chance of having a career. And your name gets published in the Base Newspaper along with the DUI's and wife-beaters. Game over...big time. And all your husband would have to do is blow the whistle and call his commander. When I was a commander, I got that call a couple of times.

That might be one reason you were blown off.