Family is interesting. My mother (who knows absolutely everything, heheh) has told me to give H a time limit on how long I'm willing to stay without any significant steps on his part. She says i spent over a year telling him how he was hurting me and he didn't care, why should I now.
I think they hate seeing us so distraught in this moment, that all they want for us is a quick fix. They see the best in us and think that whomever we choose to be w/ should as well. It hurts them to see you hurting. They don't understand, so it's easier for them to say "move on..." You just set your focus on the goal. Your goal.
It's easy to go back and look at it now and see all the signs. hindsight is 20/20. You will see every little thing now. Focus on the Goal and why you want her back. Why you are willing to fight so hard and feel so much pain. Focus on the positives.
I'm glad you are getting back to taking care of you. It'll be a good way for you to stop thinking about the past and how much wrong has been done to you. Not that it's not important because should a commitment to work on M come from her, that will all need to be focused on, but for now, it will just keep tearing you down.
IMO, W is trying to get back in your good graces. When you see her all dressed up do you tell her she looks nice? just wondering. I know that for the longest time i tried to dress up for my H just to see if he'd even notice me. Never did. Girls need that appreciation of their physical appearance.
Keep your head up...
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
