LFL: Not the ideal way to kick off the new year, as I'm sure you are painfully aware by now. [LFL]
Looks like that pickle you mentioned has grown way beyond Zucchini size now.
Hi, Mojo,
What I said does not pertain one iota to this current situation and was not a blanket statement.
This has gone waaaaay waaaay beyond the sexual sticking point discussion of "How do I kick-start my submissive, non-initiating man?"
I was not aware LFL has been playing 2 men and sabotaging her R via regularly interacting with OM. Judging from NOPkins and blackfoot's, among others, previous "you're a keeper, LFL" comments after her posts showing a real respect, love, and patience through frustration ... I wasn't the only one apparently.
It was more for someone like Karen. Though I sense real frustration in Karen I see that she still deeply loves and respects her H -- enough, say, to try and fix this one sticking point in an otherwise healthy R ... so that's why I suggested some ways of kick-starting a guy who might have a real phobia about feeling dirty/depraved at the thought of grabbing her and bending her over furniture without prompting.
He feels like he isn't worthy of receiving nice gifts after all. That's a possible indicator of just how he feels about himself and his own self worth. That stuff can ooze out into a lot of other facets of a man's life, including sexual confidence and comfortability.
No, LFL has lost all respect for her H. He is an emotional wreck and I don't blame him. I would be that way too if I had to deal with such wild unpredictability.
Eddie asked what she planned with OM. Well, Eddie, I'm going to say the fact that he canceled because he had to watch his 3 kids indicates they weren't going to sit around and catch up over tea and crumpets. Call me crazy, Crazy Eddie. Apparently weasel soldier boy grew a tiny, what could be considered as a, conscience perhaps over screwing another man's wife. Yes, indeed, ladies, he's quite the "real man."
But LFL opted to listen to her looneytoons best friend, lie to her H's face about where she would be the day before New Year's Eve, and let H sit at home alone with the kids whose names he tattooed on his arms and more than likely stress and worry over how to win the love and respect from the woman he loves enough to want to seek counseling.
Know how many of my peers hate that idea? Airing our dirty laundry to some stranger with nothing more than an MSW or psychology MA, PhD title behind his or her name? Lots.
As for the weasel OM. I caught a lot of heat the last time I called him that. Don't care. Stick by it. I'm a big boy and it takes a lot more to even scratch my "defensiveness" button. WEASEL.
He contacted LFL after specifically saying he would let her go to work on her M years earlier. I don't profess to be a real man but I know enough about how to act like one to say that if I am going to leave a M F alone so she can work on her M there's no way in hell I am going to contact her again and jack her skull up by seeing if she's still M while I am single. Give me a Fing break.
If and when she's had enough in her R and files d then she can try and look me up. There's a good chance I will be in another r but those are the chances. But to wait around for 2 years for a married woman -- skulking around the carcasss of another man's meal like an omega male jackal is, frankly, pathetic.
Especially apparently an OM back in the States on temmporary leave who stoops to using fear of death in Iraq to twist up an already irrational female. I'm sick of hearing this lame-@ssed justification to cheat.
It's called the military. I have friends in the military. You sign up there is a marginal chance that your country is going to send you somewhere where you might actually just be wounded or killed, Sort of comes with the package. OM wasn't drafted for godsakes.
There are over 100,000 troops overseas and there is a better chance that all of us will be killed by a drunk driver tonight on New Year's Eve than OM's chances of being killed in Iraq or Afghanistan. Now if this were the Civil War (as SouthernGirl might agree) and you were leaving your belle to fight for Dixie there would be a better than 80% chance you would leave her a young widow.
It's why I'm sick of using "alpha" to describe any M behavior because it's too broad. So I'll give you an example of some refinement of what I meant by "prince" and "king."
In the movie, Gladiator, the actual prince, Commodotus, played by Joaquin Phoenix, is an alpha male prince sub-type: immature, no integrity or real principles, and willing to steal another man's wife.
Maximus, on the other hand, is what I call an alpha male king. He radiates integrity, honor, and principles. This is why the king hates his own son in favor of Maximus.
And, best of all, when the odds in the gladiator ring via lions, being outnumbered by other better armed fighters, pretty much ensured a 99% chance Maximus would be slaughtered, no way in hell can anyone suggest Maximus would ever use the excuse that he's scared he might get killed the next day as a reason to mess around with another man's wife.
My 2 Roman cents.
-Stigmata-
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
