Like you I want to know everything about A. XOW H and I tried to piece it together by comparing notes. Never really figured it out. It still bugs me a year later. I have been tempted to call XOW H and ask him. Hell I saw him two weeks ago and and followed him into a store. Couldn't find him to ask ??? Probably better off.
We are verbal. H's are not. Also many of the books we have read about A say they sometimes never confess as to what, why, where, how etc... I've also heard that very often they are so distressed and ashamed of A that they can not discuss it with us. Could that be the sitch with H? Maybe he's so ashamed (as he should be) for hurting you that it pains him to talk. You know the old Mars and Venus stuff. Just some thoughts.
You always come back to this. Maybe when you see C alone before you and H go together there may be a way to bring this into session down the road.
Have a good night LL. You deserve everything your heart desires.
