"I need to find myself" - yup got that one several times

"I went about it the wrong way (affair), but it is what it is"

"We are unhealthy together"

"I dont want to push you over the edge, but want to keep you at arms length"

"I have so much resentment" - common after she had an affair, they turn it all around on you

"I feel like I lost myself somewhere in this marriage"

Me: 37, engineer, former Marine
Her: 33, HS dropout, retail sales
Kids: 3 Daughters 11,9,3
2 Dogs
Seperated since Jun07