I am not sure or for certain what Andy meant. But I think he meant that by maybe of some short comings he had he could maybe see that this could happen. Like traveling a lot for work, not doing things together or spending time together.
Ya know when I think about my husbands short comings you would think I would be a prime candidate for an affair. But I have held strong on not doing anything. When some people are unhappy they aren't as strong. Like for instance, but let me add my husband has depression. but he gets angry with the kid's. Could be over something stupid. Doesn't hit them ever. But it's his lack of patience. Same with me totally gets aggrivated easy over stupid things. Where does that leave us we don't go to him for anything hardly. I would rather do it myself then ask him anything. The kid's would rather tell me. Where does that leave me, growing apart from him. Because I don't want to talk to him much. He has a lot of negativity. He has been working a lot. So really the last couple months have been lonely but nice. His depression also left him with a decreased sex drive. Where does that leave me. Lonely and young with advances from other men.
But let me just say I have stood strong. But I am a strong minded person. That's why I would always tell someone if your spouse has beefs with you. Look at them seriously. People don't say something hurts them or bothers them for the heck of it. It's something they really feel. But you know I bet if someone asked my husband and this is if we were to ever seperate what went wrong. He would say it was all me. Even though he knows his short comings.
