Countin down to a great 08

[nutfarmer]

So.. W texts to say she will stop by between 6-7 to collect the rest of her money and see the D's. I told her to call because we may not be home.. friends of mine have presents for D's and talked about inviting us over. W freaked.. she responded "Where you going? Who's over there? I want to see the girls.. what about their bed time?"

Gotta love it. She's still trying to control you.

I responded "We just sat down to eat. He is not to come in"
She: "Whatever!!" Me: "My house, my rules" She:"Thanks for the pissy attitude. I thought things were going to change. When will that happen?"

I can come up with some curse words here.

I responded: "I did.. you didn't. I've been nothing but nice to you and it got me nowhere." She:"Bull-crap.. think again."

Some friendly input here Jar..."My house my rules" would have been sufficient. You got sucked into an emotional argument that made you feel badly, and let her feel "justified" in having the last word.

So.. she arrives.. attempts the garage code.. I changed that about a month ago. Rings door bell and proceeds to chew me out about not letting her know about the garage code. I said "I didn't think it was that big of a deal."

Unbelievable! She seems to forget that it is your house.

Then.. I asked about a painter that we had used.. I have some ideas and want to get some estimates. I admit, it was a needle in the eye, but I don't care. She responded "You trying to get rid of everything about me? I still care."

Boo hoo hoo. Welcome to the grown up world.

Nut.. you are right. I'm not going to be Mr. Nice Guy anymore. I'm all about me and the D's. Could care less what her and her mom want. Not my issue anymore.

I don't care about being right. I care that children have a responsible parent who thinks about the example that he/she is setting for them. You seem to be that kind of person. Twenty years from now when your daughters have their own kids, they will look to their own parents' example for how to raise them. They will remember that dad treats people respectfully and insists on the same in return. That is what you want to teach them.

Nut