Plan something super fun to do with your daughter for New Years. Take photos (and ask others to take photos of you and your daughter together.... a photo you can frame!!!). Make it a super special day for the two of you.
I like how well you've been handling things. You have a great attitude and a lot of strength and healthiness. Keep smiling, keep happy and keep agreeing with your husband and being "friends" with him. Don't allow him to get into any fights with you (to help validate his decision), and give him plenty of space to avoid tension. It would be nice if he could leave with "good memories." Be a saint, great listener and totally agreeable and supportive. Give OW a lot to live up to!!!
Also, do try to avoid some of that D talk. When he wants to hash out details, just tell him the lawyers will be taking care of that. This stuff can escalate and you need to try and avoid that when possible.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
