Does it really matter to you to know if it was physical? (I know it did for me).
I think I suggested this before, but perhaps later on, when things are more settled, you can broach the topic again.
Something like.."You have to know that I KNOW it was more than just a friendship with OW...I understand why you wouldn't want to admit it. You probably thought that that would be the end for us. A lot of men feel that way. (LL men tend to take the physical part as being much more of a betrayal than the R part). Clearly it wasn't."
Or...in a quiet "Good" moment: "H, is there anything else you'd like to tell me about the A? There's nothing that could change how things are going, so if there is, please know you can tell me"
I don't know LL, now I'm just rambling. My BIL had a romance with a co-worker that never got physical so it IS possible.
