Quote: And you know what kills me? H gave OW all KINDS of words of affirmation. After all 80% of their A was an EA so words were important.
He called her peanut butter legs and honey thighs!!! . He called her "BABE", guess how he signed my birthday poster? Happy birthday Babe.
He had LOTS of sexy, fun, appreciative words for her. My H is verbal, just not with me, I guess. And the less he gives to me right now, the less I feel like giving him, or acting "as if". CRAP!!!!
I don't know what words h actually had for ow...she was married...he was married...(as if that matters) they both expect me to believe they were just friends...nothing more..they just spent time together...to quote her words to my sil "we just sit and shoot the sh!t" I don't know but I do know that somehow (supposedly with not so much as a kiss or deep embrace) my h was able to communicate to her his feelings for her in such a clear way that she was ready (and still is) to leave her h to persue a r with him. don't know what to believe...but I do know that my h was never great with expressing himself verbally..infact I remember the first time he ever said ily..we had been dating for about 6 months...we were in his parents basement...I was sitting on the couch and he was pacing...and finally said..."I think I love you" (guess that said it all there he only thought huh!!) I responded with "well I know I love you" well it's funny cause since all this mess has occured I don't say it and h doesn't say it unless I am saying..."you don't even love me" but one evening..I did say to h...."I think I love you" h smiled and said..."well I know I love you"
I sometimes read what others have gone through regarding the op and wonder if I am being lied to or if h's relationship with this ow was just that a relationship..a friendship...an innapropriate friendship that he kept from me becuase of my jelousy...she was a woman who "went to bat for him" regarding the other customers on the street..and we all know how some guys just love when you do something nice for them (didn't matter though that I'd been doing a hell of alot more for him than making a phone call but I digress) she was there...she was friendly...she was outgoing...she thought h to be a great guy (and he is) she saw h as many would....as a sweet...caring...kind...respectful gentleman...I don't know what they talked about everyday...I don't know if they were cutesie with eachother...or if they were just friends...ow did call me a day or two after h was seen with her...called me to tell me they were just friends...tell me how much my h loves me...tell me what a great mom he says I am...how he always tells her how great I am...sure sitting shooting the sh!t with her..telling her how great I am and then ignoring me when you get home!
I dunno...wish I knew more about their r...but sometimes glad I don't know..then I can at least pretend that they were just friends and I pushed him to her.
annoying!!!
h and ow both say nothing happend but I know that they are both capable of lying to me..
I find it hard to believe that h expressed his feelings to her...they talked about how they would be able to trust eachother...she asked her h for a d and expressed her feelings for my h and they didn't so much as kiss...embrace affectionatley???
wtf???
I dunno??? I just don't know....maybe h is telling the truth about it just not being that way...about it just not happening...h did admit to wanting to be physical with her he did admit to being in love with her...he did leave...he did admit to having plans of persuing a r with her...so why not admit to being physical with her??? h could even to save face say that they weren't physcial til he left the house or till she asked her h for a d...but to say nothing ever happend??? huh???
