How frustrating it has to be to want to hear those words, but know that your H is a man of few words...

LL, when reading your thread, I'm reminded of a stunning sculptress with a hammer in one hand and a chisel in the other facing a block of granite (your H). Its hard & tedious work to turn that block into a piece of art. No matter how you whack at it, only little chips come off, but once the scupture is created, it will last an eternity.

I wish I had more to say ... ... but ya know, I'm kinda intrigued with Tony P's idea of slipping some Viagra into his dinner drink and see what happens...

Actually, with amount of time he spends on the couch in front of the TV, it seems your H still is trying to coast through life on autopilot and until he has a revelation that there is more to life. all you can possibly do is keep showing him what he is missing, but only he can open his eyes to it ... and slowly like a groggy awakening I do believe the giant is stirring, he just hasn't come to full consciousness yet.

'til later,
KAW