Quote: I just want to know that h appreciates me...but if I say that to h, he will tell me....don't I thank you for everything...I always thank you for everything you do...but you see that is different that is thanking me for doing something...not thanking me for being me!!!!
So, this is the way of my W and myself. Whenever I mention something that I'd like done (or done better), she responds in the same way that your H does: "It upsets me when you say these things because it makes me feel as though you don't recognize what I've been doing lately. I've done this and that..." Basically, I get a short list of things that are being met for me.
I think for us, perhaps, it's simply a level of expectation. We want our Ses to be present so badly that we push our expectations upon them when they are not yet ready to really hear what we want from a decent R. We want them to "want" to be with us and show us their commitment rather than just be "content" to be with us. They are willing to do A, B, and C because they are content, but don't go extra step and do D, E, and F. When we see D, E, and F, we'll know that they are "in love" with us again. Right?
Quote: well I wish he would say LL you are beautiful, sexy, fun, loving, caring, dedicated, smart, independant, compationate, strong, understanding, special, and I'm a lucky man to be able to call you my wife...btw will you marry me and put your rings back on????
My goodness, you echo my sentiments. Funny thing about the ring thing. I took my ring off about a month ago, my W put it on our dresser, and my daughter was playing with some stuff on the dresser one day and it was lost. I assume it fell in one of the drawers, but haven't looked for it. My W has asked me on at least four occassions if I'm ever going to look for my ring. I think it bugs her. My guess is that you not wearing your rings bugs your H, but he won't say anything about it because he wants you to feel as though you want to be with him and will put them on when you're ready to do so? On that same vein, I'm waiting for my W to find my ring for me. That will show me something...
My guess is that you not wearing your rings bugs your H, but he won't say anything about it because he wants you to feel as though you want to be with him and will put them on when you're ready to do so? On that same vein, I'm waiting for my W to find my ring for me. That will show me something...
