Yep, we've been online! I hate to think of what would happen indoors. The word is that the lack of sugar in the diet makes it less sticky for cleaning up. I imagine there is a good possibility that one could get splattered!
OMG your W is going to have a fit that you wasted all that good soda! I can hear it now!!!!
For the next few days think about how you would like life to be different than what it was when W comes back home. Then, think how to put that plan into place a little at a time. You can start by saying that all went well while she was gone and you'd like to stay in that mode and give her time to do some of her own things as long as she promises to not get nitty gritty with the daily stuff. DO NOT say that you don't need her around to help with anything!
I think you have to change something Jeff, your boys are growing up without respect for their mother or maybe even women in general. How will that help in a R or when they M? And sadly, as good as it is they are using condoms it also seems they don't have the respect for the girl if they are having sex and you don't even know they have a GF.
What's a good recipe for NYE for a palgal that will be home alone? Nothing to do with rolls please.
You are going to be home alone? That doesn't sound good. Should I have read that? Anyway, I may have just found out that we are invited over to a friend's house (family of best friend of S18). Before that, I figured that two young ones and I would hang out and eat brownies and ice cream, and drink soda, and then a bottle of sparkling grape juice at midnight! I guess you could do that on your own. I know everybody makes a big thing about NYE, I really never have, I think that might be a good plan for you! If I'm not here, I'll send some virtual hugs!
I think we can get away with the wasted soda! She got them the geyser tubes, after all. Though I'm not sure she expected that we'd fire 20 bottles off for a science fair project But, it she doesn't have to deal with the project, we can do almost anything!
The lack of respect for women is kind of ironic, since that's a theme that W is really big on. And when she's on her game, argument wise, I end up believing that I'm the one that models that behavior. But the more I think bout it, the less I think that's true. I mean, I know there are things I could do better, but I think it is her insecurities, and biases, that makes her see it that way. Instead, her behavior is losing them. But I sure can't say that, because her behavior is in response to me. The girlfriend thing is a very good point, too. Especially since I don't really know when they are having time to have a girlfriend they should be having sex with. My brain hurts!
Uhm, didn't Amy have another thread going? I could have swore I posted to it?? I am in the right place RIGHT??
It would appear to be gone. The posts don't show up in her history, either. I guess either the mods decided to get rid of it, or perhaps she requested it be deleted. I hope she takes a different direction!
On the condom wrapper thing, I drove my car today, and remembered why I really did think it possible that it was there for a long time, and perhaps not related to my sons. It was not just above the visor. The visor has a mirror with a flip up lid, and it was in there. That's not a feature I use very often. I don't usually do my make-up, or even shave in the car, my hair is short enough that it pretty much is what it is, though it needs to be cut now. So it is possible that I did go several months without flipping that cover up. In fact, I don't think I have done so since the discovery until today, and that was just because I was thinking of it. Another reason I am just not confident enough that it was them to bring it up. It's still kind of gross, though!
Lin- I missed your post earlier.... The sushi sounds great! That's the kind I would eat!
The kids sandwiches, I may not have a sufficient sweet tooth for! Kid's cooking, and stuff for kids sounds like a great idea though! Getting kids able to at least find their way around the kitchen would be a good goal!
I take it his bankruptcy doesn't mess you up. That's sure a good thing!
Exactly why I recomend that if you have a spouse in MLC...and especially if you live in a community property state... I filed and got a legal seperation shortly after he left...so his financial woes are ALL HIS!!!...Otherwise I don't know if I could forgive him or not!!!
As for the kid's sandwich...think reese's peanut butter cup in a hot sandwich...
My D21 is camp counselor for Kid's cooking camp during the summer...and I help her with her menu plans for the summer...it is actually very fun...
Well Hooters is pretty good although they have the skimpiest wings...anyway my sandwich was good and we had a good time watching the football game and all the people there...
Now I have cut up a fresh pineapple...it is almost as good as the ones we had in Hawaii..
Lin- I think in a community property you have to protect yourself as soon as you have any reason to worry, especially if there are kids! Sort of shoot first, ask questions later. But, I've always said that when/if the MLC returns they'll actually appreciate the strength it took to protect yourself and the family.
We sent to the same friends' house tonight that we'll visit tomorrow night. Tomorrow, there are Mel Brooks movies leading to the New Year. Should be amusing!
Still working on the peanut butter cup in a sandwich. Might have to try it to know for sure!
I agree...as when my H left he said there was no reason to file for D or seperation that if I stayed married to him I would benefit from any income that he made...I thought about this long and hard...I would benefit anyway because we had been married so long...If he cared about his kids/family he could benefit us in anyway he wanted...married or not...I also realized that his debt issues were about to explode because I did find a hidden credit card statement in the trunk of the car when I took possession of it after he got a new BMW convertable (he tried to tell me work bought it and let him use it...see how stupid they think we are???)...that is when I realized that with a LS I was still married...would still benefit from things I was entitled to...but would not be drug down the financial path that I really saw him taking...
I agree...fear of the upsetting the MLC should not stop you from protecting your family...and yes, H is now very thankful that I protected myself as I did because now we do have a chance for a future...you see we had to sell our home during all of this...I have not spent my 1/2 of that money...I do intend on buying a home...which H agrees will NOT have his name on it as he will sign off immediately so that I can get a loan without him...I told him I love him and basically I trust him...but I want to make sure that if "I" buy a home that I will never be displaced because of someone elses decisions...I also can't be forced to refinance...which he did with our last home...had we NEVER done that I could have afforded to stay in the home...payments were less then $700 a month originally...now I pay rent that is almost $1300 a month and have much less room and nothing to show for it!
Well today...we are off to view the Dead Sea Scroll exhibit...a once in a lifetime opportunity...although my dad thinks it is stupid to want to see them because "you don't read that language"...oh well...I love you too, Dad...
Oh and Jeff...you don't have to put the marshmallow cream on that sandwich...that lessens the sweetness considerably...and while your thinking that direction try a grilled PB&J...they are great too...you can cheat and us the Uncrustables if you don't want to actually make a sandwich first, lol...they aren't too bad but I like more substantial bread for my sandwich and better quality peanut butter...
Take care...Lin....oh and Mel Brooks movies sound good...we have rented the first season of Heroes and are getting quite a kick out them...if you haven't seen this TV series...you have to start at the beginning...good for the whole family...a little gore for the guys...but still fun for the whole family...
