Does your H have "performance" problems as well as low sex drive? Because that's a killer combo.
And as for him not being physcial with OW because of his sex drive/problems, well, um, that's what I thought .
LL how long have you been with your H? Since you were 12??? Gosh! That letter from when you were 20 says a lot. I have some from the first year of our M pointing out my dissatisfactions, and it's rather sad to see the same issues today, .
I can SOOOOO relate to the "sleeping on the couch" thing. It's what my ex-fiance did for years...I remember so vividly feeling "I'm only 17! surely there are better ways to spend a Saturday night than to listen to you snore!"
CJay says that because the couch is "his bed" (he snores, says our bed is uncomfortable on his back) he just naturally falls asleep there when the T.V. is on. Great.
Just makes me feel boring, like my company is a sleep inducer...not exactly what I have in mind.
However...just thinking about you asking your H about having fantasies. A few years ago I asked my H about the same thing. He thought about it, then said he just pictures us "doing it". He doesn't have fantasies!!! But Michelle writes in SSM that this is fairly common in those with low sex drives!
OMG, I have fleeting fantasies all day long! Sigh.....
I also relate to being touch starved (although I had a healthy dose of appreciation and good hugs at my birthday party on Sat ).
During the fall, into January, I sooo looked forward to my chiropractors appointments. Yes, they helped my headaches, but it was also so pitifully nice to have a handsome man put his hands on me in such a purposeful, strong, sure manner.
Yes, I've had a fantasy or two about him!
What are we to do LL??? I just hope Cjay does read SSM and starts to really make some moves on this front. (pun intended). One good sign...in addition to the tickets in my birthday card, he said...perhaps a visit to the Love Bug? (a local lingerie/sex toy shop)
Although this sucks, LL. It's kind of comforting to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way, seems that lots of us are in the same, sad, boat.
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