In that vein, I inadvertently got some "news" about my wife last week - a mutual acquaintance & I were talking about DANCING (duh) and she mentioned that most girls LIKE men who dance, but it was unfortunate that my wife was not one of those girls!!
Now to me that's odd; firstly as this person said she would not act as ago-between (my wife had come to see her about 2 months back and she got the impression my wife was attempting to use her as a "messenger") and 2ndly, my wife absolutely LOVED dancing and we had planned on going to classes TOGETHER (someday).
Ok, so not sure if this was an "accidental slip" from this lady OR if it was on purpose for some reason?
One thing I know, this lady said to me "When are you going to get it? I hope you are moving on with your life"
I asked her not to get into that as she knew where I "stood" ----> SHE does NOT get it that I'm standing for my marriage, sigh
This woman is NOT your friend. And there was nothing "accidental" about her comments. Who knows what her true agenda is...but it is not helpful or respectful to you or your stand for your marriage. And she is certainly NOT speaking for your wife! Shake her off!
She is one of "Satan's agents." I don't mean she is evil. Just that Satan can and does use anyone and all of us for his purposes -- usually unknown to the person -- to do his bidding.
Her comments about "When are you going to get it? I hope you are moving on with your life." should send up huge red flags for you. Anytime -- anywhere -- anyone -- ever says anything like that...instantly know it is Satan speaking through them.
Never engage with these people. Just calmly reply, "Thank you for thinking of me. I am doing quite well and I am on the path that God is leading me to be on."
NEVER ever ever tell anyone who is not like-minded of your "stand." This is not wise. Never engage, never explain, never defend. Instead just deflect.
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One thing I AM doing with immediate effect is to cut ties with "our" current hairdresser as it's a pipeline directly to my wife - I dunno, in my efforts to get a life, I still get this feeling too much of what I do gets back to my wife & thus quells her curiosity
As to breaking off with the hairdresser that you and your wife share...I have mixed feelings on this. I would only do this if you feel God is leading you to do this.
Otherwise you may be interfering in a conduit that God wants you to have -- and that He has put in place for His own reasons.
Nothing in what you posted leads me to see that God wants you to close down this channel of communication. Instead it just sounds like YOU are trying to manipulate and control this situation for your own purposes. And the truth is that you can't force anything.
Going to the same hairdresser may or may not be quelling your W's curiosity. You don't know this.
And how do you possibly know what God may be using this channel for? You don't.
No matter what you do to try and manipulate and control a situation -- if it isn't on God's agenda...it isn't going to work out as you hope. Pray on this before you act.
I would think you are clever enough to keep this channel of communication open and to carefully use it to your advantage. I don't believe in coincidences -- so I have to believe it is a holy channel.
But you should become very mysterious when you're there. Act very happy and be very non-specific -- so that you control what information will possibly get back to your W.
And BTW, is it possible that this woman who hopes your moving on with your life...may hope you'll "move on" in HER direction?? Just a thought! Otherwise she is just a "wooden spoon" trying to stir up trouble!
