All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[Jen_Jam]

Hi E

Good luck today - just to let you know my H too didn't feel comfortable in our house - he even said once we "have to" sell it.

Another thing to think about - projecting. If he says to you "W, YOU hold me back, YOU make me feel as if I'm not good enough" .. subsitut the YOU for I and you get a little closer to the truth ... people sometimes project. Think about when peeps accuse others of looking down on them .. usually it's the accuser who feels not good enough.

A lot of your H sounds like mine ... in which case it's probably going to take him a long time and he has a lot of work to do on himself (I'm guessing here, it's just a lot of the things he says sound familiar). Like the spearation ... my H stayed at a friend's flat but didn't really like it, he realised himself the grass is not greener ... seems like your H may be coming to the same conclusion. I hope so. All you can do is create the atmosphee in which he feels comfortable. This is going to be one tough job!

Anyho ... thinking of you, keep posting I hope tonight is a peaceful one.