if the OP has made it clear that they want to leave in no uncertain terms, you MUST do LRT/go dark.
Well, yes and no. This stuff isn't one size fits all.
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but for me, it seems the more I am nice to her and the more we interact, the nicer we are to each other, and the more I feel from her
It seems you've identified what works. Earlier on you were having success with this so maybe this is the course you should take. Of course it feels like you are not advancing. I told you that first you have to diffuse the pressure, than you will live in limbo and things will seem to go nowhere. It will seem that way to you but what would be happening is she is slowly peaking from behind the wall(s)...my wife said she had 21 of them :-(. Than when she feels it is safe she will SLOWLY start moving toward you again.
I never got served, so now you are getting in to uncharted territory for me. Still, it seems you have room to work but you have to...have to, have to, have to, have to, have to stop challenging and confronting. For a while you were pulling it together and it was working but for weeks you seem to have been driving your wife away with your behavior and making it about you. It will be months before you can think about you.
Hang in there. Ask Rob to check in again. I think Sandi2 would be good for you also if she is still around.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
