Yup, the mindreading thing is always a biggie! My W expected that I know whatever she needed without ever being told. I should know what she feels and what she needs, we should be melded into each others psyches, I guess! I remember saying to her "sometimes I will know what you need and sometimes you'll need to tell me, that's the way life is" It didn't go over well. Mindreading was a major issue in our M, especially since her OP seemed to be so damn good at it...oh yeah, she didn't have kids, mortgage, bills etc and she could spend her every waking moment pondering "what does Mrs. Whatis need today?" I was fighting a blazing fire with a squirt gun. It's funny though, she never seemed to know what I needed or felt but that was just another indication, according to her, as to why we shouldn't be together. That was her answer for any of her own shortcomings, just more proof we shouldn't be together. It was never "hey, lets work at changing some of this stuff"! That would require work and work ain't romantic. But that is that, as I've said before, W and OP will have to live with what they've done to our family, I can sleep at night knowing I did everything I could to create a loving M and family. I failed but there is no shame in that, I gave it all I had.
