Jar, there is a whole board called "Divorced but not Done", so I am assuming many people continue on with feelings/emotions/DB'ing after a D. I haven't read much over there, but I would bet that most of those couples have kids together...
You hear about it. People divorcing and remarrying each other later. I just don't know. I feel, like you, D is so final. So much has changed and transpired since then, and I am sure some more hurt/betrayal (example: dance on YOUR night) has happened through the D process.
She can't even wear the necklace her OWN daughter helped pick out? Sad. So sad.
So you think instead of W allowing you to take D's to dance class, that MIL will just jump in and take them, leaving you out on your night with the girls? Will you fight this? I saw you mentioned the police/L's...