We had some good conversations.. I opened up and I thought we were heading somewhere. I've "helped" her out.. watching the girls while she ran some errands etc. The Xmas gifts.. the card for the anniversary. I know those are pursuant behaviors, but minus the Xmas episode, I thought it was something she would appreciate.
This did backfire on a few occasions: 1. After doing all the above, when she asked if I could help take down and store the Xmas stuff at her place, she said "Don't be insensitive". When I balked and said "It's yours now.. you need to keep it"
2. I have planned for over a month to take the D's to my friends house on Monday the 7th (my night anyway) to watch the OSU/LSU game. Evidently, this is the first day of their Dance classes that I was not involved in. I'm the ass for wanting to watch a "stupid f'n football game". Story of our marriage right there. If it's not important to her, it's useless and can be dismissed.
3. I believe she told the D's that the necklace THEY got her (remember, D5 picked it out for her) was too small. She has yet to wear it, but wouldn't be caught dead without the ring OM gave her.
I also believe that MIL has been a factor. I had a long conversation with her after the pool incident. Some of that conversation included how W was saying she loved me etc. MIL said that wasn't fair to me and said something to the effect of "Well.. she must not care for OM then"
Since this convo, W has showed no interest, has been to her L with MIL (she runs the show) and has questioned OM's whereabouts when I'm around W. I believe part of the issue is MIL is now paying W's L. She's of the opinion.. "Since I've been paying, you'll see it through"
One of the things I'm concerned about is the MIL will try to take D's to dance on Monday. W was very upset they weren't going and said "I'll take them and then bring them up to your friends" I told her absolutely not.. it's my night and this was planned.
I can see MIL taking them.. she does that, and I will involve L's and police.
One last question for those along side the ride... if you were to go through the big D, what are your thoughts about reconciling afterwards?
The way I've felt since the beginning is once the D is final.. there is no second chance. I'm sure that may change, but it's how I've felt this whole time. Not sure I would want to be a couple who was married, divorced, remarried, divorced again.
