I didn't think I was going to need a cold shower tonight, until I read your new thread!!!!!!!!
I copied some interesting parts, and will comment on them!
sometimes I wonder if h and ow actually belong together
Does that sound like some one you know? Some one you have been trying to convince otherwise? You are better than OW!!!!!
make him some calzones to take with him so he'll eat lunch
I knew it, I knew it!
this is a loosing battle with h...this is not a new issue...has been an issue for probably 10 of the 14 years we've been together it just got worse once we married.
I was wondering if I missed this in all of your posts! This is something I REALLY don't understand. OG treats my W like that, and she says she appreciates not being treated like a piece of meat. Please don't take this wrong, LL, and I'm not stalking a serial poster, but it is possible that we marry the wrong people? My W needs a H like yours, and I need a W like you!? Even then, would we be compatable? Putting aside our age difference, it would be great, but I assure you, there would be something else we would argue about! THAT'S LIFE!
It IS possible that H wasn't doing the nasty thing with OW! Maybe she understood. Maybe he told her you were always pressuring him for sex, and she wasn't! Maybe she has an average build (oh yea, she's small) and you are built like a BSH! Maybe H feels like you are too good for him! Maybe, maybe, maybe! Who the fu** knows? You said it on one of my posts, "people suck", "life sucks"
Miss Chevy Tahoe told me that 13 of the 14 years she was married to H2 they didn't have sex!!! During a counciling session, H saw an attractive secretary, and wanted to keep going back! That secretary was enough to make him start having sex with his W?????? After 13 years, maybe that's what killed him! I told her I couldn't be married to her for 13 SECONDS with out having sex! If we went for it, would I feel guilty? Maybe! Could she make me forget W? Maybe! Would she care if she might ruin my chances of W returning? Maybe! Would the novelty wear off? Maybe! Would she possibly be my last chance for eternal happiness? Maybe! Is my W comming back? HELL NO, SHE DIDN'T PASS UP HER CHANCE AT ETERNAL HAPPINESS! Will she ever regret it? Maybe! Will DB'ing help? Maybe!
when we were first married I cooked dinner everynight even dessert...came home from work...gave him my check..took care of him...even gave him a damn pedicure one night... all he had to do was stay awake long enough to ravish his wife in some physical way but did he?? nope...
LL, W did the same for me, and I ravished the hell out of her for 30 years, and look where it got me! NOW she tells me our M was all about sex for me and nothing else! Hell, and I thought she appreciated it! Since this happened between us, I told her she spoke my love language, but I guess I never knew hers, AND STILL DON'T! Now she won't even give me a chance to learn!
I think we have hit a language barrier ? You are disagreeing or just disappointed (UVISION)
No language barrier here, I understand you LOUD AND CLEAR!
through out the years let's just say I've tried everything...
W has DR, so I can't give you the page number, but Michelle says "If you think you've tried everything' I'm here to tell you that you haven't" IMHO, you're trying pretty damn Hard! Read DR again!
though one night I did sit in front of the fireplace in nothing buy my underwear..said...I'm hot
Holy Moley, LL, I'm glad I didn't finish hooking up the water heater!!!!!
LL,
I really don't have any advice for you! I ache so bad to be holding my wife every night, like I have for 30 years! Is there any one else that could replace her? Yea, yea, yea, MAYBE! After she dropped the bomb, she has only let me hold her once! That meant more to me than sex ( ? ). Is love sex? Is sex love?
I guess just back off! Don't treat him like a "piece of meat" Don't "grump" when he is watching TV, and not paying any attention to you. DO NOT TALK ABOUT SEX! Don't go out with out him "dressed to kill". Get your chores done early ( so I'm macho )so you can go to bed right after he does. Don't talk in bed! Don't touch him , but let him know by your actions you want him to hold you! Look good, smell nice, put clean sheets on the bed! Ask him if he would be willing to put one night a week aside for sex! He will! Then ENJOY IT! Every Sunday, change the day of the week! Make it romantic! Send kids to MIL. Get a hotel! Tell him you want this M to work! Ask him what HE wants!
GOD! WHERE'S W!!!!!!!!
T ny
(though one night I did sit in front of the fireplace in nothing buy my underwear..said...I'm hot
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