Mickey - I have been thinking a litle more about this jealousy thing - I think it is that they are not fully adult, and so not fully parents. A bit of them wants to be the child, and looked after [remember how the MLCer so often identifies the LBS as the parent] but they also want to rebel against the parent . . .
But the emotionally underdeveloped part of them cannot be a father or a spouse, because that part is stuck in childhood . .
I don't know if you ever felt that there was something clingy about your h, while at the same time rejecting and nervous of real intimacy?
