You are speaking my thoughts! Feeling my feelings.
I am ACHING to be touched, fondled, WANTED, desired. My H doesn't even give me appreciative glances. He did say he liked a new top I had on yesterday, but...when I'm walking around in a thong I'd like to hear...anything!!
Your H is affectionate only when horny, I'm not sure my H ever IS horny...but wait, he must get there sometimes, there were two OW .
I know your frustration and anger there too. How could it be THEM who cheated? Wouldn't most people expect it to be us who would stray?
About the whole discussion of the "in love" passion phase...it's a known fact that this doesn't last. 6 months, a year or two at the most. It's hormone driven, based in evolution, keeps a couple together long enough to procreate, help an infant survive.
Not very flowery, is it? I don't think we can ever "recapture" that with our S's. But we can rekindle "whispers" of it as someone (KAW? Acorn) said earlier.
It's just so frustrating when we're the ones trying and trying and getting so little in return.
Your thong in front of the fire? Exactly the same thing as me in my Valentine's get-up grinding to "sexy lady" while H was consumed by finding the next tune on the computer .
It hurts to be rejected that way. I spoke to him about it. He said to "bump into him" or something! Tried that too, seems that all the advances are mine.
And as you said (and as I assured H) it's not all about SEX, it just want to feel desirable, needed, wanted. I get some of that from male friends, I know I'm attractive! But the very person I want it from.....ARGGGHHH!
Has your H read Sex Starve Marriage? I sure hope my H picks it up soon.
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