Mickey this jealousy of their children seems to be a feature of MLC for some men.
For my h [who prior to MLC would have walked across hot coals for his kids] I think it came from a variety of sources. Jealousy of their youth, jealousy of their easy and intimate relationship with me, jealousy of their freedom in exploring new relationships, jealousy of the fun they had, which he did not have at their age. Jealousy of my middle son's success, jealousy of my eldest son's engagement . . and so on.
All this was at a time when his professional career was disintegrating, he was getting older, my mother was dying [took up a lot of my emotional energy] His sense of self was fragmenting, and all his childhood issues bubbled to the surface.
Basically, instead of growing up he regressed . . .
Mickey it sounds to me as if your h may be regretting his behaviour. It is sad when they leave it too late.
