I was going to recommend "Five Love Languages" but you seem to have the subject reserched...
If H is unwilling to cooperate - perhaps it will take more time and patience (my situation with WAW exactly) or maybe you should take further measures (pull away more, concentrate on yourself and stop servicing H, or lovingly continue anyways... Love is a lot of work and requires that we put 100% regardless of what the other spouse does. The only limiting factor is when we decide, that enough is enough...
I see people who are not affectionate all around me... Since I was raised by women - I have the advantage of being more in touch with my feelings. As such, I can display affection to my W and D with ease... But not everyone is so fortunate or so educated. Some men need to be trained
