seems to me they are very much acts of service people...well h I've got an act you can service me with!!!
this is a loosing battle with h...this is not a new issue...has been an issue for probably 10 of the 14 years we've been together it just got worse once we married.
I realized long ago that h was "acts of service" orriented and I obliged, volunteering to help with his company when he started it...sorting out paper work...adressing envelopes (before he got a puter to do it) physically laboring in the field with him before he got all his fancy equiptment and employees...I washed his truck for him while he worked in the office so that he wouldn't have to do it and then we could get onto my "quality time" together wich was actually me taggin along and taking an interest in football to be with him.
when he finally moved out of his house...I volunteered to clean once a week..they paid me 50 bucks to do it...a house with three guys living in it a mess...for 50 bucks?? it wasn't for the money...
one day I even scrubbed their damn nasty shower left a funny note (which h still has) that aliens needed the soap scum to run their space ship..hope they wouldn't mind that I let them take it...
I took to h's way of giving gifts...I was never a big gift person but it was h's way so I obliged and when I would find cute little things I'd get them for him...
when we were first married I cooked dinner everynight even dessert...came home from work...gave him my check..took care of him...even gave him a damn pedicure one night...
all he had to do was stay awake long enough to ravish his wife in some physical way but did he?? nope...
spend some time with her...did he?? nope..
tell me again why I let him come home??
so i could cook for someone?
so I could do extra laundry??
so I could worry if I was keeping the house clean enough??
so I could look at a man and want him but not be able to have him??
I dunno! at least h will now accept my invites to go out and do things...maybe it will take a while if ever before he accepts my invites to do me!!
