Oh its tough to consciously recreate and it will take two to tangle to get to that point, and it will take alot of work, but no more effort than the first time. Its just we really didn't put that much thought about how much effort it was initially because we were concentrating on our feelings of euphoria "falling in love" that came from those efforts. Being more aware of making the effort can take some of the euphoria away, but once we start to experience the rewards of our efforts. it will come back. Its like the reasons why the athelete goes through all the effort of training to win an event.
LL, you've been down the road of telling him what he can do to make you happy. When he does them, then you have questioned why it did give you feeling you were hoping for.
When you first fell in love, it was not because he did what you asked for, but because you accepted what he had to offer. At first they were new, totally unexpected and a risk to take. Your H throwing his cell phone out the window is a perfect example of what I'm trying to say here. In return, we need to validate we appreciate their offering...as the say, not for the act itself, but for the thought behind it.
Now don't get me wrong now one act is going to turn it around, but recognize that your H is taking the first steps. If I remember right, you say you date for awhile before getting M. Think of what you are doing now as a renewed courtship. At first those feeling are not there, but they grow when we nurture them.
'til later,
KAW
P.S. Well this is in response to your first posting today. By the time I submitted it I see you have posted some more. I'll have to go back and read those others...
