Why do we do this?

[hope2wrkitout]

I believe in marriage like all of you, but tell me why we fight so hard for partners that seem like they don't give a damn about us? My H has cheated, he can be cold and mean and cruel (not all the time but lately). He says he is not happy. He never misses a chance to make me how much he does not want to be a part of my life, but yet I keep fighting. I don't deserve this. I deserve someone who loves me as much as I love them. I deserve someone who will appreciate me not hurt me. I deserve someone who wants to be married to me and who does not bail when things get tough. I deserve someone who is faithful. So tell me why should I keep fighting and tell me some of the stories of why you guys keep fighting. Right now I feel like a fool for wanting someone who so clearly does not want me. I feel like a fool for loving someone who can so easily toss me and 22 years of friendship and 6 years of marriage aside. I feel like everyone in the world gets treated better than me. How do you just do that to another human being?

[EverydayMike]

That is an excellent question.

Because it's the right thing to do?
I am not a quitter?
If it never works out at least I will feel like I have tried every possible way to save it?

I keep telling myself that in 30-40 years I want to be one of those folks who can say, "my marriage survived even the roughest of times".