She's ready to move on

[Michael Mc C]

Thanks E! I agree completely. I would much prefer she got it here than anywhere else!

I looked at the calendar and OM has been gone now for 11 days. Seems much longer for some reason. Looking back to the 2nd time he disappeared (this is his 3rd) I see that W has a pattern of threatening to leave but not ever doing it. In the 4 weeks he was gone she was "leaving" on 4 separate occassions. Instead we just made more and more of a connection (ML was included).

I'm not saying that she has had a change of heart but I believe that she will probably continue threatening to leave without actually going anywhere.

I doubt she will make the "mistake" of reconnecting with me again this time. Not as quickly as she did the last time anyway. Don't get me wrong, I never once thought we were on our way to 'piecing' but the flirting, playing, kissing and general husband/wife interaction was increasing.

She can prove me wrong though. During the last OM-less span of time she never once mentioned to me directly that she was going to want to move on (date) sometime soon. I found that out from a mutual friend the last time. This time she came right out and said it to me.

I still believe that her moving would benefit all 5 of us. If she stays past the start of school (Jan. 22) I will simply believe that she is taking advantage of me based on my help with her schoolwork in the past (studying, research, explaining concepts, etc.) This is something that she won't get at her mother's house (unless, of course, she begins dating a study buddy.)

I will take advantage of the time she IS here anyway to continue with GAL and making myself a little less available. I am still feeling

Okay. BIL and his GF just got here. I've had a drink already (they're selling a modified version of absenthe in the US again) so I should stop rambling and get socializing.

Good night all!