Ditto to both Brit and Jenny. One of Hs claims was that it was me and the Ds and then him. Yet I am the one who is planning activities for them to rebuild there once close R. Yes it is unfair to the kids. I don't want to stay married just for the kids, but I do think they deserve us trying to work it out. At least if my R doesn't work out I will be able to look the Ds in the face and say I did all I could. Brit and Jenny you will be able to do the same.