Now, just to add to my last post, I'd like to blow my own horn! I did do alot of things right. When W told me I wasn't romantic I got my butt in gear and started romancing her. What I got in return was "you're only doing this because you know I like it, it's not really you". I persisted for two more years before saying "to Hell with it", it began to feel demeaning. When W complained that it was her job to come up with weekend family activities, I came up with a list and began initiating activities. When W complained I didn't listen well, I told her I would try harder but would also need her to help me by bringing it to my attention when I screwed up, and her response was "If I need to teach you to listen then obviously you can't do it" So yes, I did do alot to turn things around but it was just too late, she was not interested in turning anything around. She complained endlessly to justify what she'd already decided, that I was toast!
