Just bought a 1 way non-refundable ticket to Dtown

[Michael Mc C]

Decide what are the deal breakers...so get the important things sorted at the beginning.

I have to agree. I have never officially pieced (did a few years ago before I knew anything about DB). The deal breakers will be key to determining if YOU can accept W back in your life and if she can handle your expectations. It's not making demands, it's plainly stating what you can and cannot accept.

I'm not sure what would be the best approach to getting it plainly stated though. I am sure you DON'T want to give her a list and say "can you live up to this?" Probably best to cover it through open discussion.