I agree with you that all of this is a bunch of crap. Just stick it out and wait for your wife to fall off the fence and see which side actually has the greener grass.
I'm really getting tired of it all - I'm stuck at home today with D (who is sleeping right now), and W is no where to be seen. I've had D every night since Christmas Eve, which I don't mind, but W doesn't seem to give a crap that she isn't spending any time with D. W has made it pretty clear through her actions that she's okay with abandoning her family to pursue whatever it is in life she is looking for.