Consider this Venue a stovepipe. A place to vent. Very few judgemental folks here cause we been there done that and made all the wrong moves ourselves.
If you push him to file be prepared if he does. Understand your confusion on his logic. If he does not believe in Divorce then why is he taking the actions? Sounds like a "I want my cake and eat it too" agenda.
PTSD is a funny thing. Almost everyone who spent time at the wrong end of a weapon gets it for a short time and a few get it longer. Some of my fellow HMs got bad cases and most of us did not and the amount of combat did not seem to matter. It was more of having to be on guard constantly and the fact the bad guys determined when, where, and how much combat was to happen as most conflicts of this type when we used the stragety we did in OIFII.
I cannot tell if my sitch resulted from PTSD or a D forced on me and a choice of retiring my civillian job or move 1000 miles right after my tour was done. Usually things happen all at once like a $h!t sandwich with all the fixins.
With that said I did say goodby to normal lifestyle as in working 5 days, mortgage, wanting a relationship, and suckin up to the boss. I'd rather surf, hike, and have fun. Standard of living means nothin to me outside of funding my kids school.
One can look at that with sympathy and say it's too bad he cannot hold a steady job or label it as Great he's havin a rocking good time. Second label is more fun.
Though I am in the Navy some of the best Manuals I read were Army Pubs on Combat Stress and it's reactions. When I return I'll look up my old note and pass on if you are interested.
I'd would have given my right arm for a supporting spouce upon return but I understand though do not agree with the change in mindset for people with Spouses, kids, and other responsibilities.
Have fun in So Cal. I'm in Oregon currently at my Sister and we definitely disagree on most things so I have to keep my mouth shut.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
