Long and Bumpy Road 2be continued...

[JennyF]

From everything I've heard on these boards, a month is not a long time.
When kids are involved I've heard it referred to as "going DIM" instead of dark. Maybe this a better way of looking at it.

But I think the key is that you may not see progress in him over that time...it's yourself you need to be most worried about.

Is it reasonable to ask for this NC with her if he wants to contact me?
I am just afraid that he will continue cake eating as long as I let him.

I think you have to be careful with this one. Asking him for anything will probably make him feel that you're making demands on him and I think that will push him away. I think the NC has to be your choice and your execution between you and him...don't worry about him and OW. I know it's easier said than done, it's true. And really, what good will it do?

When you say 'cake eating'...exactly what is he doing that is making him a cake-eater?
J~