Long and Bumpy Road 2be continued...

[JennyF]

OK S02...Here it comes....

Do you think he really cares if you are ok with or not? I doubt it.
He already must know that what he is doing is not right, do you really think he cares? I doubt it.
Do you think he thinks there is a chance for you guys right now? At the moment, I doubt it.
He is being so selfish right now, do you really think he is ready to put his family first? I doubt it.
Do you think he sees a happy future together with you? If he did, would he be doing this? I doubt it.
Do you really think he's prepared to work on himself? Since he probably doesn't see much wrong, I doubt it.


Do you have a right to be sick of this? YES
Do you have a rigth to not be ok with the OW? YES
Do you have a right to be so P*!$$ed off that you want to unload all of this onto him? YES!

BUT, I highly doubt it will do you any good. In fact, this is just more of you telling him how YOU feel and how you think he SHOULD feel. Trust me....I do it all the time and each time I do I kick myself for it! The last time I did it about 3 weeks ago, I would have given anything to press rewind and do it again properly. So now, my mission is to stop myself BEFORE I do it.

You've already sent it, so don't dwell on it. But in the future I would suggest posting things like this here FIRST. Then sit on it for 48 hours and get some feedback. If you still feel that way in 2 days, then send it. But you most likely won't.
I received this advice a while back and it really makes a difference for me. Sometimes you just have to get it off your chest and this can be a good place to do it without directing it at your H.

By the way, this is the second time in a few days that you've said "I know I'm going to get 2X4'd for this, but..." So if you know they are wrong things to do, why do them? It's not the people on this board that you should be worried about disappointing, it's yourself.
Sorry if I sound all "tough love", but I don't want to see you more hurt than you already are and I think you're totally setting yourself up for that.


I told myself that I am going to reread DR to start the New Year off right. I often lose sight of the simple things outlined in the book and I need to refocus my efforts on the action based things.
Maybe if you reread it you'll feel a renewed sense of focus too.

So on that note...did you get a response?
J~