Just bought a 1 way non-refundable ticket to Dtown

[JoieDeVivre]

Hurtin,
Wow! I bet your head is messed up! I agree with Michael ... "your family wants you back, let's talk about what needs to happen..." IF that's what you want. You may not know at the moment either! Don't rush into anything. If you decide to try to R, it takes a long time. Baby steps. You'll be starting at the beginning. The old relationship is gone (but that's a good thing).

Keep focused! I hope you're still working out. Get yourself a good workout before you go. That will help!

Joie

[foo fighter]

H4C,

Woohoo!! but seriously, take it slowly there partner. Gotta find out exactly what is going on in her head.

I would have many questions and you know what should be going through you own head so I will refrain from putting my own opinion down here.

I just want it to work out for you but be cautious you know what I mean?

Fantastic news though.

Good luck H4C, I am routing for ya.

Foo.

[Hurtin4certain]

Thanks guys... Im scared as all get out. Theres a few things that would need to happen.

1. SHe would have to be willing to go to a SBT therapist.
2. Would have to get back on her meds for her Bipolar disorder.
3. No contact with OM, period.
4. Her actions, not words would have to convince me that she is sincere.

If she cant do ALL of these things, no deal.

[Michael Mc C]

If you've ever checked out the "piecing" threads, you see the shift in feelings a lot. I think it's natural. I know that if my wife ever comes around we'll have a lot of issues to work through. A lot more than if she simply said "we need to do something" 6 months ago.

[Hurtin4certain]

Well, our meeting is going to take place this Sunday. I have no idea what to expect or say. I think Im just going to be honest, non-judgemental and confident.

I certainly have some reservations about her sincerity. Does she want her family back only because of the security? Is her OM dumping her so now she wants me? Is she only doing this so she wont risk losing our D in a custody dispute? Is she simply playing with my mind and buttering me up?

My mind is going 100mph, didnt sleep well last night.

Part of me wants to tell her to go fly a kite and the other part wants this so bad. I cant understand how a month ago she told me her feelings for me had changed and that she felt she had moved on. Now she cant stop thinking about me and feels lost without me.

Ugh.

[NoCodeBlues]

H4C

It is very understandable that you feel yourself vacillating between two opposing sets of impulses.

It's a high-wire act, I'm sure. A tightrope. You've just got to stay balanced and give it some time to play out.

Look at it as you finally getting your opportunity to shine -- to be strong and show her the H she needs until she finalizes in her own mind that you really are the H she truly wants.

In the mean time, keep working on you.

[SirPrizeMe]

stay cool. goslow.
like nocode says, if you are not sure what you want, that's ok. totally understandable.

but if unsure, then I'd say, maybe don't immediately start issuing demands. Maybe suggest that you both go slow? see how it goes? No guarantees?

Demands may push her away.

[Hurtin4certain]

Heard nothing from her yesterday, I think Im getting ahead of myself. I spent all day thinking about her wondering if she would text me. UGH

My anxiety has come back and Im in a constant state of nervousness...

Ive decided Im going to take D sledding to take my mind of this stuff.

H4C

[foo fighter]

H4c,

Can I come sledding?

Good to get your mind off things. Have a fun day.

Foo

[saffie]

Hurting,

Decide what are the deal breakers for you and your daughter.

Piecing is hard - believe me. There are times when you will want to throw in the towel - so get the important things sorted at the beginning. It can be worth it BUT DON'T settle for second best.

I am keeping everything crossed for you.