My Dad died last year as well. W. was miserable and totally unhelpful. Then in January, I got mobilized to deploy to Iraq. I told you the story about leaving. She was misearable. It seems when it rains, it pours. Check this article out. It's from Mens' Health, and this happens to guys who are seemingly doing everything right. It speaks to guys like you and me. It happens to women too, but after 40, mostly it's women who initiate this. Hang in there.
